relationship gaslighting quotes
This is a powerful quote. I know this because I was recently in the midst of a relationship/gaslighting/gaslighting relationship. I was in a very bad, very toxic, relationship where I constantly had to ask myself what was really going on in my life.
In the case of our relationship, I was in the midst of a very toxic relationship that had gone on for a very long time with several different people. I don’t want to give too many details because I don’t want to give too much away, but suffice it to say that everything in that messy, toxic relationship was a red flag in my eyes. I could tell that it wasn’t going well.
Relationship gaslighting is when someone gaslights you with words and actions you don’t understand. I think most of us have experienced this at some point in our lives, and it can be a little bit terrifying. When you start to feel like you have no idea what is going on, it can feel like you yourself are the one being gaslit.
While it can be unnerving to deal with someone who is clearly lying to you, there is usually a good reason for it. I personally have not experienced this, but the few times I have it has been a result of a very unhealthy relationship between the two of you. It basically means that you become the person taking the victim of the gaslighting. While it can be a way to get back at yourself, it can also be very destructive.
I’m going to be honest here and say that I’ve never experienced this for myself. But I have seen it happen many times, and I think it comes from a combination of both toxic and unhealthy relationships. This can have a lot to do with the trust factor. If your partner is lying to you then it’s very easy for you to put yourself in a vulnerable position, and this is definitely a way to get back at yourself.
So the first gaslit quote (that I had read) I think is from a woman who is a psychologist: “I’ll tell you what, if you’re not careful you’re going to end up in a relationship like this.
I think I was close with my ex for a long time, maybe more than a year. We worked together, I was a little younger than her, and we had a lot in common, and we just clicked. I think the thing is that we both have toxic relationships in that we were both trying to manipulate the other.
I think that’s the right way to look at it. A toxic relationship is one in which one partner does something to try to change the other in their own self-interest. The gaslight quotes say that when either partner gaslights you that you’re actually doing the same thing.
The idea here is that the people you work with are not your partners. They have no interest in you. They only have their own interests in mind and in the way that they see you. So they are not your partners in any sense. In order to work with them you have to become a complete stranger to them. You have to learn to trust that they know what they’re doing and that they are not trying to manipulate you.
When you gaslight, you are not the other person, you are the other person pretending to be someone else. It’s sort of like when you fake your own death and say you’re dying and the other person just laughs hysterically and walks out of the room. You can’t really be the person you pretended to be, because you have to pretend to be someone else. You have to pretend to be someone other than yourself.